'You don't owe her anything ': Woman cheats on husband, he divorces her, 10 years later she expects him to support her through being cheated on and her divorce

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Sep 27, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Infidelity is alarmingly common, even as ubiquitously painful as it is. No one can imagine how it feels to be cheated on until it happens. The entire world in which you thought you knew becomes a fable and distorted reality. In the story below, the protagonist is a divorced dad whose wife cheated on him, catalyzing their divorce. 10 years later, she's getting a taste of her own medicine. Karma is real. It might not come in the same form as what someone did, or at the time, but people do get what they put out into the universe. 

Her world is crumbling, and she seeks solace in his comfort, knowing he went through the same. But he keeps his boundaries and doesn't let her engulf him in her pain. He refuses to let her use him, and thinks she can deal with it on her own. Comment below if you think he's in the right or not, and read the full story below for all the details.

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    AITAH for not supporting my ex-wife while she is going through a divorce

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    My (44M) ex-wife (44F) recently told me she was going through a nasty divorce, basically he's been cheating on her for some time
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    and just told her he was moving out. This is very similar to what she did to me 10yrs ago so she comes to me because " you know
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    how it feels and you made it through ". Well yeah, had she not dig my name through the mud for 10yrs and even up until a few
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    weeks ago made nasty comment to our kids about me (they are both away at college) I might consider trying to help her out
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    some. I honestly don't care she's hurting, but a tiny piece of me wants to set a good example for our kids.
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    She looks like h I, she's really going through it, but back when we got divorced I had nobody to turn to as she justified to anyone
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    and everyone" getting away from the worst mistake she ever made ". I think she's just in the shock phase and super down right now,
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    I don't think she would ever hurt herself. And for two weeks now I have asked her to not bother me
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    unless it has something directly to do directly with the kids (which is what our minimal conversations have been about since our divorce) AITAH for this?
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    Antique_Elk7826 • 6h ago NTA You don't owe her anything. The only reason I could think of to intervene is if you
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    thought your kids were in danger or being neglected, then yeah of course step in.
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    But even then your responsibility is to your kids not her.
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    Scarlette MayWest ⚫ 6h ago ΝΤΑ That is some unmitigated gall to ask the person she dig through the mud to
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    emotionally support her when the boomerang of consequences hit its mark
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    Agoraphobe961 • 6h ago NTA. Set a good example to your kids by showing them it's ok to have boundaries and self-respect
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    Narnia Mouse • 6h ago NTA. She's an ex. Normally I'd point out that you shouldn't even stay in contact with
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    them, except for kids - but you've already got that figured out. Outside of that, not your problem.
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    • janus1981 6h ago NTA. What an outrageous ask. I'm pretty sure your kids would understand that. She has other people to lean on, the hypocrite.
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    Itchy_Juice_2528 • 6h ago NTA. It would be more appropriate for her to cry and complain to her friends and family. You don't owe
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    her a shoulder to cry on or anything else. You don't want to get tangled in her relationship troubles. Let
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    that be the example you set for your kids - to stay out of other people's drama.
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